Here’s To A New Year.

Probably it’s no surprise to a lot of you when I admit this: I LOVE making New Year Resolutions.

It makes the OCD me happy.

I love the promise of a new year, the idea that I could be anything I want to be or do anything I want to do – I just need to focus on what it is I want out of a new year.

It’s goal setting at its finest. Want to be less tired? Resolve to sleep more, and actually start going to bed earlier. Want to run a marathon? Just go ahead and sign up. Want to lose weight? Start tracking what goes into your mouth and work out more.

The problem with New Years Resolutions for someone like me is that you start to confuse your self-worth with accomplishing stuff as part of your resolutions. My Inner Critic needs a steady diet of New Year Resolutions to stay happy, so I start thinking in October or so… So what are you going to do THIS year, Karen? You ran that marathon, lost weight, are less tired. Now what?

And then, on New Year’s Eve, she’ll actually pick apart the accomplishments I did have in a given year. You ran a marathon? HA! More like ran 18 miles then walked the rest. You lost weight? Hey, great, except if you lost about 5 more pounds you’d stop being in-between sizes. And let’s not forget the 30-Day No Yelling Challenge. You made it, what, two days without yelling?

Last year, for the first year, I made Not Resolutions instead. I called them Not Resolutions, but they were kind of resolutions.

There were two on the list.  And I was successful at 50% of them.

Hey, 50/50 is pretty decent, right?

Except it was EASY to not diet. That second one, saying no more, was kind of important. Blew that one, Kar!

And see, that’s the thing. You make resolutions, you keep them and say, hey, what a good year!  (Or in my case, you say, Hey, a decent year, but maybe next year you could do a little better, yeah?)

Or you don’t, and they become an exercise in frustration. I want to be different somehow, but eh, it’s a resolution, and no one really keeps them anyway.

So no resolutions for me this year. I’m tired of doing stuff for my Inner Critic, trying to prove I’m enough: good enough or thin enough or smart enough or successful enough. Not this year.

2015 is the year of I am enough.

Here’s to the new year.

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6 Responses to Here’s To A New Year.

  1. Deborah says:

    Yes! I feel like so many of the blogs I’m reading lately are all about self-improvement, as if, if we just tried hard enough, we could remove all of our flaws entirely. Me, right now, I’m focusing on accepting myself as I am. I have flaws, we all have flaws, and that’s okay. I’m not doing so badly. I’m working on believing that. I really hope you can believe that about yourself, too. Happy New Year!

  2. katie says:

    I love this Karen… And I am so glad to have you as a friend 🙂

  3. Ana says:

    Hooray! I love it!!! Happy New Year!

  4. Ahhhhh, kindred spirits of sorts. I just posted something similar, about not making resolutions but what I am doing as my 50th birthday approaches.

    And, I see nothing wrong with self-improvement if in improving oneself, one has a richer, deeper, more contented life. We only get one, you know, and we chose how we live it.

    Happy New Year!

  5. noemi says:

    For me it’s not the resolutions I love, but the clean slate a year seems to bring. When I start things, I always have to wait until an auspicious moment, the start of the week or the month or the year. That is what has always seduced me about the new year, it was such a great time to redefine something important in your life.

    That is why I’m so glad I started trying to make these changes in my life a couple of months ago–if I had waited until the New Year I would have known is fail, because the stuff I start on firsts (or weeks or months or years), those things never stick. They aren’t about changes that I really believe in, at least not deeply. I am actually hoping that the fact that I didn’t wait until January first to stop shopping or clean out my house means I will actually do these things. We shall see.

    I love that you have no resolutions. I don’t really either. These things I’m changing, they are about survival. I NEED to makes these changes, so I don’t think of them as resolutions, it’s more like they are prescriptions.

    I look forward to seeing how your year of no resolutions goes. I hope it’s positive in more ways than one. 😉

  6. KeAnne says:

    Love it! I got tired of making resolutions and didn’t make any this year.

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